Artificial Intelligence Reveals the Secrets to Being Healthy

Health and Why it is Important

I recently posted about how I was able to have Artificial Intelligence (AI) write a blog post on how to become a successful investor. I thought it was amazing to see what the AI was able to generate on the topic. Click here to read that post. Since wealth and health usually are intertwined, I thought it would be interesting to see what AI also had to say about staying healthy. Here are two responses that the AI wrote when prompted with, “Write a blog post on how to stay healthy.” (I used the website https://openai.com/) 

AI’s First Response

When it comes to staying healthy, there’s no one-size-fits-all solution. Everyone’s body is different and requires different types of care, so it’s important to find a plan that works for you. Below are some tips that can help you stay healthy and make sure you’re getting the most out of your body. 

1. Exercise regularly: Exercise isn’t just good for your physical health, but it can also help improve your mental health as well. Whether it’s taking a walk, going for a run, or taking a yoga class, find an activity that works for you and make it part of your routine. 

2. Eat a balanced diet: Eating a balanced diet is essential for staying healthy. Make sure you’re getting enough fruits and vegetables, whole grains, and lean proteins. Also, try to limit your intake of processed foods and sugary drinks. 

3. Get enough sleep: Sleep is an important part of staying healthy. Aim for seven to nine hours of quality sleep per night and make sure you’re getting enough rest. 

4. Manage stress: Stress can have a huge impact on your physical and mental health, so it’s important to find ways to manage it. Try yoga, meditation, or simply taking some time for yourself to relax and unwind. 

5. Stay hydrated: Drinking enough water is essential for staying healthy. Make sure to drink at least 8 glasses of water a day.

AI’s Second Response

Staying healthy can be a challenge, especially when it comes to maintaining a healthy lifestyle. But with a little planning and dedication, it’s possible to keep your body in tip-top shape and enjoy a happier, healthier life. Here are some tips to help you stay healthy: 

1. Eat a Balanced Diet Eating a balanced diet is essential for maintaining good health. Focus on incorporating plenty of fruits, vegetables, and whole grains into your meals. Limit saturated fats, trans fats, and processed foods, and make sure you’re getting enough protein, fiber, vitamins, and minerals. 

2. Exercise Regularly Regular exercise is just as important as diet when it comes to staying healthy. Aim for at least 30 minutes of moderate activity each day. This can include walking, jogging, swimming, or biking. Strength training is also beneficial for maintaining muscle mass, bone density, and overall health. 

3. Get Enough Sleep Getting enough sleep is vital for your body to function properly. Try to get about eight hours of sleep each night. If you have trouble sleeping, consider making lifestyle changes such as limiting caffeine consumption, avoiding screens before bed, and establishing a regular sleep schedule. 

4. Manage Stress Stress can have a major impact on your physical and mental health, so finding ways to manage it is essential. Consider activities such as yoga, meditation, or deep breathing to help keep your stress levels in check. 

5. Practice Self-Care

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Wealth and health! The healthier you are, the less money you need to spend on healthcare. The wealthier you are, the more resources you have available to stay healthy. Instead of a downward spiral, this is an upward spiral! If you want to get wealthy and stay wealthy, you should probably focus on one of your most important assets, your health! If you need help changing any of your health habits, one of the best books I read in 2022 was “Atomic Habits” by James Clear and I would highly recommend it. https://jamesclear.com/atomic-habits

“If you can get 1% better each day for one year, you’ll end up 37 times better by the time you’re done.”

— James Clear

“It is only when looking back 2, 5, or 10 years later that the value of good habits and the cost of bad ones become strikingly apparent.”

— James Clear

“If you have any financial questions I would love to connect with you to help”

— Heath Biller

Fiduciary Financial Advisors, LLC is a registered investment adviser and does not give legal or tax advice. Information presented is for educational purposes only and does not intend to make an offer or solicitation for the sale or purchase of any securities. The information contained herein has been obtained from a third party source which is believed to be reliable but is subject to correction for error. Investments involve risk and are not guaranteed. Past performance is not a guarantee or representation of future results.

Are Your Financial Passwords Leaked On The Dark Web?

Advice From A Cyber Security Expert

Andrew Rathbun is a cyber security professional with seven years of experience between local/federal Law Enforcement and the Private Sector. Andrew has spent the last 2.5 years responding to ransomware incidents for businesses at every scale. Andrew is heavily involved in the Digital Forensics and Incident Response (DFIR) community. He enjoys writing blog posts, sharing research, contributing to open source projects, publishing books, and learning from and collaborating with other professionals in the field. Below are Andrew’s answers to a few questions I had for him regarding online financial accounts.

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1. What are the biggest threats to keeping online financial accounts secure?

The biggest threat is when people use the same passwords that have long since been compromised in numerous hacks. You should make sure your current passwords aren’t in the infamous “RockYou” password leak, which can be found here. This is a commonly used password list by hackers when they want to attempt brute forcing (trying many passwords to see if one will work) accounts to gain access and carry out their goal of stealing all your money!

Additionally, some financial institutions do not have multi-factor authentication (MFA). My credit union doesn’t currently, which is crazy to me! Email/Password combinations used for some of the most important accounts people own are floating about on the dark web. You should use multi-factor authentication for every financial account if possible.

2. What is the best way to create a secure online password?

Using a random password generator is the best thing you can do. This can make it difficult to remember all of the random passwords though. So once the random password is generated, you then have to decide the best way to store/remember it. For examples of strong passwords, use a site like this one to create a password that is difficult to crack.

3. What is the safest way to save/store these secure passwords?

It is vital to use a password manager. I use 1Password as my password manager. I like it because I can use my email and an easy-to-remember password to access my password vault, which contains ALL of my passwords for every login I have. What makes it secure is that not only do you need the typical email/password combination to log in, but you also need a secret key that is unique to your account. If you use a password that has long since been leaked as associated with your email, a hacker will need to know your secret key, which is a random string of numbers and letters, before they can log in to your password vault.

Within my 1Password vault, I don’t know any of my passwords by heart. They are often 20+ characters and include lowercase characters, uppercase characters, symbols, numbers, and other special characters. There’s no way I could remember one let alone hundreds of different passwords. On some of my most valuable accounts, I have 50+ character passwords! I use 1Password on my phone and computer to log in to my accounts, so I don’t have to remember those passwords because they are simply too secure to remember. If ever they get leaked and therefore associated with my email account, I’ll just regenerate a new 20+ character password and replace it in my vault with the one that was compromised.

4. Any password managers that you would recommend that are free?

I’ve personally not used any free password managers, but one free password manager I would not recommend is your web browser. Obtaining your saved passwords from a browser like Firefox or Chrome is trivial for a motivated bad actor, and frankly, I could download a free tool right now and obtain the passwords stored in my web browser without much effort. 

If I had to choose a free password manager, the first I would consider looking into would be BitWarden on account of the program being open-source. What does this mean? That means the source code that makes it work is completely transparent to the public. If there are vulnerabilities, those who have the knowledge can identify them and suggest changes to the program to make it more secure so everyone benefits. For those not in the cyber security industry, this is a very common occurrence where a tool is free and open-source where improvements, bug fixes, and any other feature requests are encouraged. 

5. What is a VPN, how does it work, and should the everyday person use one?

A virtual private network (VPN) is something that people can use to make their internet traffic secure from people who are trying to steal their data. VPNs are secure but they can be very slow. Without a VPN, if you go to a website, data travels from your computer directly to the website’s servers. With a VPN, the data travels from your computer, to Israel, to Switzerland, to Brazil, and then to the website you’re trying to go to. Therefore, the website will load much slower than without a VPN.

The everyday person should strongly consider using a VPN when connecting to public Wi-Fi, such as the airport or a local diner. Unsecured Wi-Fi networks allow bad actors to easily sniff for packets of your data going to and from your computer, including but not limited to your email/password combinations when you’re logging into your bank account on said public Wi-Fi network.

6. Any good VPN services that you would recommend?

If you care about privacy, then you want to use a VPN that’s based out of a country with favorable privacy laws. Switzerland is widely considered to have the most robust laws on privacy when it comes to consumer data. ProtonMail, a privacy-focused email provider based out of Switzerland, has a VPN service called ProtonVPN. I use it and I very much recommend it. The philosophy of Proton is admirable and the fact it’s based out of Switzerland is a huge plus for privacy. Proton also embraces the open-source mindset that I admire about BitWarden and many other projects within my field of work.

7. Any other best practice recommendations?

Use a password manager, enable multi-factor authentication (MFA) on every account that provides that as an option, and change any passwords that you’ve been using since high school! 

Remember if something is free and you are not paying for it, then you are the product. Your data, your interests, your everything is being sold by advertisers like Google for profit. It’s not that any of us have anything to hide, but there’s a reason why we all don’t have 24/7 freely accessible streaming cameras in our bedrooms for all the world to see. 

Also, if you try to sell something on Facebook like I did tonight for the first time in a few years, and multiple accounts message you asking if the item is available within a minute of the posting, they are very likely bots. Sure enough, the first 4 accounts that asked me if the item was available ALL asked if they could call me with their second message. In the next message after I said “no, I don’t give out my phone number” they asked if I could post my phone number so they could call me. I immediately blocked them at that point. You have to take a moment, slow down, and not be in such a hurry to make the sale and ensure your data’s privacy is maintained as much as possible. Why would this person want my phone so badly? I thought they were interested in the mattress I’m trying to sell. Truthfully, my phone number is more valuable to them than the mattress, and they know I want to sell the item badly enough because otherwise why would I be posting about it on Facebook where there are tens of thousands of people on each of these 10+ groups I posted the item in? Much like the term innocent until proven guilty, nowadays I see things as scams until proven otherwise.

“If you have any financial questions I would love to connect with you to help”

— Heath Biller

Fiduciary Financial Advisors, LLC is a registered investment adviser and does not give legal or tax advice. Information presented is for educational purposes only and does not intend to make an offer or solicitation for the sale or purchase of any securities. The information contained herein has been obtained from a third party source which is believed to be reliable but is subject to correction for error. Investments involve risk and are not guaranteed. Past performance is not a guarantee or representation of future results.

Is This Jar Full? Is Your Life Full?

After watching this video, take a minute to reflect on what your current “golf balls” are in your life. If they aren’t what you want them to be then make a plan to change your priorities and start allocating your time differently!

“When you create a difference in someone’s life, you not only impact their life, you impact everyone influenced by them throughout their entire lifetime. No act is ever too small. One by one, this is how to make an ocean rise.”

— Danielle Doby

“If you have any financial questions I would love to connect with you to help”

— Heath Biller

Fiduciary Financial Advisors, LLC is a registered investment adviser and does not give legal or tax advice. Information presented is for educational purposes only and does not intend to make an offer or solicitation for the sale or purchase of any securities. The information contained herein has been obtained from a third party source which is believed to be reliable but is subject to correction for error. Investments involve risk and are not guaranteed. Past performance is not a guarantee or representation of future results.

Surviving Your First Market Crash

Picture this: you’re young, living life, killing it at your first “adulting” job, putting those dollars away for retirement, finally making some good money, and then boom - the market crashes. Social media blows up, politics get even more heated, your invested savings drop lower and lower, and you can’t seem to escape the dark shadow of worry. Sound familiar? Well, hang in there, because you're about to get all the deets on how to survive your first market crash. 

First, let’s start with the technical definition of a market crash. A market crash is when the market falls 20% or more from the very top. Crashes can take longer to recover from and may last years. They also are often accompanied by a recession and usually are a result of some systematic failure or other reasoning. Okay, so now you know how to identify a market crash. Now, let’s talk about how you can gear up and weather a storm when it comes.

Don’t Stop Investing

Wait, you’re telling me to continue putting my money into the thing that feels like it’s going to collapse at any second? Yep. If you’re a client of mine, you know we are all about the long-term mindset. Markets go up and down throughout your lifetime and you are feeling the pain of your first major market downturn. Pain isn’t easy. It stings. It can be lingering. But the amazing thing is pain can be healed and can go away with time. And guess what! You have the time. Retirement is more than likely 3 to 4 decades away for you. Market downturns are a part of investing and will happen again in your lifetime. Author, Carl Richards, puts it best in his sketch below. Days can feel painful, all over the place, and scary. But zoom out and take a look at the big picture. 

By continuing to invest, you can take advantage of the market downturns and investments being less expensive. Not only that but get in on the downside and you are fully prepared to ride the wave back up when the time comes (aka you are making money). If you wait until the market is “looking good” again, you might miss the opportunity for growth. Now, I’m not saying to time the market. But what I am saying is investing at regular intervals regardless of the market performance is a healthy habit to have (dollar cost averaging, my friends). 

Tune Out the Noise

Remember that pain I was talking about? You’re not the only one feeling it. So is your boss, your parents, your neighbor down the road, and your local grocery store. It’s everywhere when there is a market crash. So naturally, that is what’s going to be flooding your social media timelines. I’m here to tell you to shut it off. Tune out the noise of your Twitter’s worry and your Facebook’s advice. If you find yourself constantly logging into your IRA and 401k accounts to check the balance - don’t. Trust me, it will help you feel less of that temporary pain. From our previous conversation above, you know you have time. Focus on the decades, not the days. Temporarily unfollowing some select individuals and deleting your investment apps might just help you forget the pain is there. 

Make Sure Your Financial Advisor is Doing Their Job

When you go through your first market crash, I want you to pay close attention to your advisor. I’m not talking about performance (because let’s be real, if the market crashed, more than likely your accounts will have dropped no matter who your advisor is). I want you to pay close attention to their communication and education. Are you hearing from them? Are they checking in and educating during a market crash? A good advisor communicates with their clients especially when the market is a little wobbly. If you are a client of mine, you know I send quarterly newsletters to educate you with what’s going on in the market. Not only that, but you can expect communication from me when turmoil in the market comes. How does your financial advisor communicate with you? Will they listen to your concerns? Will they educate and help set your focus on what matters? Remember - you hired them. 

Crashes will be inevitable in your lifetime. Knowing what to do when they come will play a huge role in your long-term financial success. So keep making strides in your career and keep building up those savings. Pain is temporary and if you focus on the right things, the pain might just start to feel like opportunity. Gear up and don’t just survive in a market crash - thrive in it. 

Fiduciary Financial Advisors, LLC is a registered investment adviser. Information presented is for educational purposes only and does not intend to make an offer or solicitation for the sale or purchase of any securities. Investments involve risk and are not guaranteed. Be sure to consult with a qualified financial adviser and/or tax professional before implementing any strategy discussed herein.

Here, at Fiduciary Financial Advisors, we take our fiduciary oath seriously. We hold these five principles:

1. I will always put your best interests first

2. I will avoid conflicts of interest

3. I will act with prudence; that is, with the skill, care, diligence, and good judgment of a professional

4. I will not mislead you, and I will provide conspicuous, full, and fair disclosure of all important facts.

5. I will fully disclose, and fairly manage, in your favor, any unavoidable conflicts

Is it too late to start living like a Millionaire?

Do you want to become a millionaire? Do you want to live like a millionaire? It might not be what you envision. One author spent over a decade researching, investigating, and interviewing millionaires to explore how the average millionaire lives. Here are his insights from Thomas Stanley’s book, The Millionaire Next Door.

They live well below their means

The average millionaire doesn’t spend more than they earn. They don't buy fancy clothes; they shop for clothes at places like Target, Meijer, and Wal-Mart. They don't drive fancy car brands like Porsche, Ferrari, and Lamborghini. They drive cars made by Toyota, Honda, and General Motors. They don't live in mansions overlooking the ocean. They live in a well-taken-care-of home next door to you which explains the title of the book.

True millionaires allocate their time, energy, and money efficiently, in ways conducive to building wealth.

The average millionaire is productive with their time. They spend much more time reading and much less time watching TV than non-millionaires. They don’t waste their money on lottery tickets or get-rich-quick schemes hoping to become rich. They invest their time and money improving themselves, learning new skills, starting businesses, and networking with other successful people. They exercise more and eat healthier. They start investing in their tax advantage accounts early!

They believe that financial independence is more important than displaying high social status. 

The average millionaire understands that being wealthy isn’t about showing off or one-upping their neighbor. Instead of buying a bigger house or fancier car, they would rather build wealth. They understand that building wealth allows them to gain back control of their time. Being financially independent allows them to spend more time with their family, volunteer more, work at a job they enjoy, and participate in hobbies they love. They understand the difference between appearing rich and being wealthy.

Their parents did not provide economic outpatient care.

The average millionaire did not inherit their wealth as many people assume. While some families do pass down wealth from generation to generation, research shows that the vast majority of millionaires are self-made. They did not receive large inheritances but built their wealth slowly over time.

Their adult children are economically self-sufficient.

The average millionaire is not supporting their adult children. They taught their children the principles of finance, which include delayed gratification and the power of compounding interest. They discussed their family finances early and often. They provided for their children's needs but did not fulfill every want. They taught them to work hard and to work smart. They taught them how to make their money work for them instead of the other way around.

They are proficient in targeting market opportunities.

The average millionaire learns that money is a medium for transferring value. If they provide a product or service to somebody they receive money, which can then be spent to receive a product or service back. They use this information to stay on the lookout for opportunities where there is a lack of products or services. Then they use their knowledge and resources to provide that need which is in high demand. Improving efficiency is another value add opportunity the millionaires use to generate wealth. Money flows to wherever value is created.

They chose the right occupation.

The average millionaire has found an occupation that matches their skill set and personality well. They enjoy going to work most days and look forward to being productive. Enjoying their job allows them to excel, which leads to being compensated well.

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I encourage you to start implementing these insights in your life. If you enjoyed this overview, I would highly recommend reading the book!

“You will be the same person in five years as you are today except for the people you meet and the books you read”

— Charlie Tremendous Jones

Sources: The Millionaire Next Door: The Surprising Secrets of America’s Wealthy; Thomas J. Stanley and William D. Danko; 1996

“If you have any financial questions I would love to connect with you to help.”

— Heath Biller

Fiduciary Financial Advisors, LLC is a registered investment adviser and does not give legal or tax advice. Information presented is for educational purposes only and does not intend to make an offer or solicitation for the sale or purchase of any securities. The information contained herein has been obtained from a third party source which is believed to be reliable but is subject to correction for error. Investments involve risk and are not guaranteed. Past performance is not a guarantee or representation of future results.

What Should I Do With A Large Lump Sum Of Money

Did you just win the lottery, receive a large inheritance, or win a lawsuit settlement? If you just won the lottery I would recommend being wise with that money since 70% of lotto winners lose or spend all their money in five years or less (Source: Reader’s Digest; link below). Being smart with an inheritance or lawsuit settlement is just as important. Here are some steps you may want to consider when deciding what to do with your newfound wealth.

1. Don’t Do Anything

   You might want to buy a fancy new car, go on an expensive vacation, or be generous by sharing the money with friends and family. There will be plenty of time for those things, but you should take a month to let everything settle first. Carefully consider who you are going to tell about the money. Don’t quit your job. Don’t go around bragging or posting about it on social media. Don’t put all of it into the hot stock of the month based on a Reddit forum. Continue living your life as if you never received the money. You will make better decisions once your endorphin levels have settled back to baseline.

2. Contact a Certified Public Accountant (CPA)

   The IRS loves when people receive large sums of money, and you can bet that they want a piece of the pie. Often, that piece ends up being much larger than you’d prefer, so finding a CPA that specializes in taxes should be a top priority. They could help you strategize a plan to reduce the tax burden and leave more money available for other things.

3. Contact an Attorney

   An attorney is able to explain the benefits of having a will, a trust, and a DPOA for finances & healthcare. They should be able to help you complete these if needed for your particular situation. If you already have these in place, this might be a great time to review and update any if needed. Having these in place will save your family many headaches when you eventually pass away.

4. Contact a Financial Advisor

   A financial advisor is able to help create a written plan for your money. This could include paying off high-interest debt, opening and/or maxing out retirement accounts, funding a brokerage account, evaluating the need for term life insurance, building out a net worth statement, starting a donor-advised fund, and determining your risk tolerance to create your ideal asset allocation. When searching for a financial advisor you want to make sure they:

   • Are a Fiduciary: Which means they have to put your best interests first!

   • Are a Fee-Only Advisor: This means they do not have a conflict of interest with potentially selling you certain investments to get a large commission.

   • Have a Clear Investment Strategy: Do they have an investment strategy that can be clearly explained to you and matches your investment philosophy?

     I am proud to say that I check all 3 of these boxes in my financial advising practice.

5. Implement Your Plan

   While creating your financial plan might sound like the hardest part, implementing your plan may be more difficult. A written financial plan of how you want to direct your money is great but if you don’t take steps to implement that plan then it was all for nothing. When implementing your plan keep in mind:

   • Not to let emotions control your financial decisions.

   • Don’t let the news media tempt you into making quick, spur-of-the-moment decisions during periods of market volatility (Remember the main goal of news media is to attract viewers, not to give solid financial advice).

   • Stay consistent and reach out for help if needed. Investing is a marathon, not a sprint.

   A patient going for physical therapy could perform all their therapy on their own if they knew the correct exercises. Having a physical therapist guide which exercises will be the most effective and support/encourage the patient in completing them, could help the outcome tremendously. Partnering with an excellent financial advisor is similar.

6. Finally, Treat Yo Self!

   If you have made it to this point and are implementing a well-thought-out financial plan, you should congratulate yourself. You did the hard work and made the tough decisions to set yourself up for success. Now might be the time for you to use a small portion of that money to Treat Yo Self as a reward!

Sources: https://www.rd.com/list/13-things-lottery-winners/ https://rochesterlawcenter.com/services/durable-power-of-attorney-michigan/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gSjM5B3QNlw

“If you have any financial questions I would love to connect with you to help.”

— Heath Biller

Fiduciary Financial Advisors, LLC is a registered investment adviser and does not give legal or tax advice. Information presented is for educational purposes only and does not intend to make an offer or solicitation for the sale or purchase of any securities. The information contained herein has been obtained from a third party source which is believed to be reliable but is subject to correction for error. Investments involve risk and are not guaranteed. Past performance is not a guarantee or representation of future results.

5 Tips to Stop Fighting Over Money

1. Talk About Money When You’re Rested & Calm

Lack of sleep can really affect our attitudes. I think we can all agree to that. I don’t know about you, but I can think of a couple of times (or a few) when I thought it would be a good idea to discuss a sensitive topic while my husband and I are getting into bed for the night. Spoiler alert: it never goes well. This relates to money talks too. Make sure you are both rested and calm. Don’t go into the conversation already heated. We all know where that can lead. And hey, while you’re at it, might as well make sure you’re not hungry either (ever heard of hangry?).

2. Proactive Versus Reactive

Having money talks regularly helps get you on the same page as your spouse and helps keep you there. Expressing your concerns, fears, goals, and expectations before a problem arises makes for a lot fewer arguments. Picture this: a reactive situation would look like me using the credit card to pay for my latest Target run. Because my husband and I weren’t being proactive, I didn’t know he wanted us to pay off the credit card this month and not add more to the balance. The results? It ended with a fight after the damage was already done. A proactive situation would have looked like my husband and I clearly communicating our expectations. I would have paid cash for the Target run and the fight wouldn’t be there. Don’t wait for a problem to arise. Be proactive and clearly talk about your expectations. 

3. Stop Interrupting

Whether you agree with what your spouse is expressing or not, don’t interrupt. I cannot express this enough. Do you know how much appreciation is felt when you actively listen and acknowledge what your spouse is saying? Let me fill you in - it’s a lot. I know, it is easier said than done. Especially when you think your answer is the best. I’m not saying to throw your input out the window. But what I am saying is to simply acknowledge what the other is saying and do so without butting in. You’d be surprised by the amount of respect it resembles. 

4. Always Fall Back on Your Priorities 

Let your priorities ground you. If you can’t seem to agree on something, fall back on what you decided was important to you two in the first place. Think of your priorities/goals as your center. The action steps you two take should orbit around your priorities or around your “center”. Whatever you are arguing about, ask yourselves “does this relate to our priorities?”. If yes, then great, keep at it. If not, remove it from your “financial universe”. This way of thinking brings you back to what’s important and keeps you on track. 

5. Marriage Is All About Compromise

Sorry if you are sick of hearing this, but it’s true. Marriage really is all about compromise. Whether that is who gets to pick the movie tonight or compromising when it comes to a financial decision. If this is hard for you, keep practicing. Sacrificing is not always easy but I promise you, you will learn to appreciate the compromise in your marriage and see it as a beautiful thing.

Here, at Fiduciary Financial Advisors, we take our fiduciary oath seriously. We hold these five principles:

1. I will always put your best interests first

2. I will avoid conflicts of interest

3. I will act with prudence; that is, with the skill, care, diligence, and good judgment of a professional

4. I will not mislead you, and I will provide conspicuous, full, and fair disclosure of all important facts.

5. I will fully disclose, and fairly manage, in your favor, any unavoidable conflicts

How to Communicate with Your "Nonfinancial" Spouse

In marriages, it’s common to have one spouse who enjoys the finance part more than the other. Do you get excited to do the budget each month? Do you know your retirement account balances at all times? Can excel sheets provide you happiness? If you answered yes to any of these questions, there’s a good chance you are that one spouse. (Disclosure: this is 100% me). But what about your spouse who doesn’t seem to share in your financial giddiness? I’m here to tell you their input on your financial life is just as important - even if they don’t smile when they hear the word “excel”. Let’s dive into how you can include your “nonfinancial” spouse in a way they want to be included. 

No Assumptions Here

A conversation around how much info they want to know is a must. Don’t assume they want to walk through every little detail of the budget with you, but also don’t assume they want to take the word “budget” out of their vocabulary. It is as simple as asking, “would you like to do the budget with me or would you prefer to know a general update?”. Most times, they just want to hear “we did good this month” or “hey, we need to cut back on eating out”. Opening up this conversation takes out the guessing and immediately puts you two on the same page.

Less is More

9 out of 10 times you will find your spouse simply wants a taste of your financial well-being. This does NOT mean they don’t care about your financial health (gasp!). This simply means a brief overview will give them comfort. My husband and I decided that giving him a quick “here’s what we were able to put toward fill in the blank this month” makes him feel he has a good handle on where we’re at but not too much to put him to sleep. Plus, I give him general updates on our saving account balance and goal progress. After having the conversation we talked about earlier, you will understand if your spouse needs more or less. Typically, less is more in the “non-financial” spouse’s mind and yes, that means they still care. 

Hear Them Out

If your spouse has an idea or a financial recommendation, let them be heard. Sometimes as the financial spouse, we tend to think we know all the answers (guilty!). I have found myself quickly shutting down my husband’s ideas or concerns because, well I’m the financial spouse! And that means I must have all the perfect answers, right? Nope. Remember, your financial plan is built around both of your goals, dreams, and hopes. Just because you were able to crunch some numbers, design a seamless timeline, and constantly know your status does not mean it is a one-sided plan. Allow your “non-financial” spouse to be heard. I also have found that my husband’s ideas actually make a lot of sense and provide a new perspective. 

They Care, I Promise

If you don’t record your daily steps, how many calories you took in for breakfast, or check your heart rate every 30 seconds, does that mean you don’t care about your body? Absolutely not. Think about your spouse’s perspective in this way. Just because they aren’t constantly checking the pulse of your financial health does not mean they don’t care. They do. The sooner you can learn that and understand that about your spouse, the clearer the communication will be. Sharing is caring but sometimes too much sharing is not caring. 

By not making assumptions, giving brief overviews of information, allowing them to be heard, and understanding your spouse does care are ways you can love your “nonfinancial” spouse better. Like I always say, financial intimacy is just as important. Money can be hard in marriage and can cause a lot of stress between the two of you. It all starts with open communication and understanding your spouse better. Take these tips and techniques with you as you power away entering data into your excel sheet (now, without your spouse falling asleep in the chair next to you). 

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Here, at Fiduciary Financial Advisors, we take our fiduciary oath seriously. We hold these five principles:

1. I will always put your best interests first

2. I will avoid conflicts of interest

3. I will act with prudence; that is, with the skill, care, diligence, and good judgment of a professional

4. I will not mislead you, and I will provide conspicuous, full, and fair disclosure of all important facts.

5. I will fully disclose, and fairly manage, in your favor, any unavoidable conflicts

How to Actually Keep Your New Year’s Resolutions

New Year’s Eve has passed, the ball has dropped, our resolutions are made, 2021 has begun. I love the New Year. There’s something about getting motivated to be better and to do better.

You know what I don’t love? February, March, maybe even mid-January when our motivation toward our new goals runs and hides. We’ve all been there - killing it the first few weeks then falling back into comfortability.

I’m here to shed some light on how we can keep our New Year’s resolutions. I believe this is just as important as making your resolutions in the first place. Here are five simple steps to kill it the whole year:

You’ve Got a Friend in Me

Support, support, support. I know this one is cliche and you’ve probably heard it a million times, but there may just be a reason that’s the case.

Trying to make some major dents in your debt, increase your retirement savings, actually use your gym membership? Team up with your spouse, a close loved one, a friend, literally anyone who will encourage you and check-in with you.

Whoever it is you choose, discuss how often they will check-in and return the favor. Teamwork makes the dreamwork, ya know.

All About the Progress Tracking

Want to run a faster mile? The first thing to do: actually time yourself at the start of your training. Trust me, I know this seems obvious. But, I’m sure we can all think back on a year (or years) where we never bothered to track our progress.

Let’s make this a priority this year. Grab a notebook, open up notes on your phone, and record. What’s your current debt balance? What’s your retirement contribution right now? How many times do you go to the gym each week? You get the point.

Listen! Don’t stop there. Weekly, monthly, quarterly, whatever it is record those same numbers. Nothing better than seeing your positive progress. Not so great progress can be just as powerful to motivate you.

Put It on The Calendar

We all know how time can magically slip away from us. Reoccurring self-evaluation and progress tracking is typically not something we put first on our list of to-dos.

Physically block out a time on your calendar (and add a notification) to sit down and check how you are doing with your resolutions. Take control of your time and your resolutions.

Patience is a Virtue

Think about it; typically, our resolutions are about reversing some bad habit we’ve had for years. If we’ve done (or not done) the same thing for months and months, we can’t expect to complete one-eighty with the snap of a finger. New habits take time. Patience needs to be our friend.

Consistency is key and it should be paired with patience. Start simple. Don’t try to change your life in one day. Accept good things take time and use that as your primary motivation to keep on keeping on. Patience can be a comforting companion.

2021 is a fresh page. I think we all appreciate the New Year just a little more this time around. Whether you have some major financial goals you want to tackle this year or you are just sick of falling into the same “resolution rut” each year, take these ideas with you: find support, track your progress, block out your calendar, and remember - patience is your friend.

I have the privilege to help people like you work toward their goals every day. It’s always New Year’s with me. Have questions about what financial strides to take? What investment accounts to utilize? Looking for opportunities to minimize your portfolio fees? I got you covered. I can be your support, help you track your progress, and remind you self-evaluation and patience are vital. Let’s start this New Year off right - together.

Here, at Fiduciary Financial Advisors, we take our fiduciary oath seriously. We hold these five principles:

1. I will always put your best interests first

2. I will avoid conflicts of interest

3. I will act with prudence; that is, with the skill, care, diligence, and good judgment of a professional

4. I will not mislead you, and I will provide conspicuous, full, and fair disclosure of all important facts.

5. I will fully disclose, and fairly manage, in your favor, any unavoidable conflicts